The many ways we Indians say, “I love you” without actually saying it

Most psychology books are written by Western authors and these authors only look at the Western culture and assume the rest of the world is the same too. When we...

Posted on Sep 14, 2019

Do affirmations work?

Affirmations are thoughts you consciously repeat to your self desiring a specific outcome. These are curious. Do they work? Sometimes they seem to and at other times they produce no...

Posted on Sep 13, 2019

A Self-awareness Question: What am I lacking in life?

What am I lacking in life?

You have it, but not enough. That is what a lack would mean. You have money, education, security, relationship etc but not as much...

Posted on Sep 11, 2019

Giving instructions to children and others - The Waiter Principle

As part of daily living, all of us are in a position to give instructions to others and we would like those instructions to be followed without any variation. Children...

Posted on Sep 10, 2019

Learning to stay with an emotion

If you don’t like particular weather (cold, hot, rainy, humid etc.,) you have two choices: move to a place where the weather is different or just wait it out. Most...

Posted on Aug 3, 2019

How do you respond to delayed responses on SMS and WhatsApp?

A good chunk of communication happens on text messages these days whether professional or personal. Most of the times, we all respond quickly to work-related messages as those are related...

Posted on May 12, 2019

Should parents discuss the negative aspects of their children with others?

Recently, while sitting in a cafe sipping coffee, could not help overhear four mothers discussing their children. Three of the mothers were sharing deeply about what is not good about...

Posted on May 7, 2019

Harmony in relationships - Relationships and scorecards

“I have given you four gifts on all your last four birthdays, but I got on only two of my birthdays”
“I am the one always calling you. You never...

Posted on May 4, 2019

Harmony in Relationships - "I love you but don't want to live with you"

“You keep saying you love us”
“Of course mom, I love you. I love dad. I will do anything for you people”
“Then why is it that you don’t want...

Posted on May 3, 2019

Parents are not responsible if children have different beliefs about religion/god

Parents who are religiously inclined become cautious as their children grow into their teens. Until the children are young, it is easy to enforce a certain kind of education. Religious...

Posted on May 1, 2019

Choice architecture at work - Physical Barriers, the first and the best tool for changing behaviour 

In the building where our offices are located, two wheeler parking is allowed on the side of the building. The two-wheelers were allowed to park in two rows one behind...

Posted on Mar 22, 2019

Isn’t it a defeatist attitude when people say that we carry nothing to the grave so possessions are not important?

People have to find someone more ambitious than them, more interested in the worldly things than them, more ‘greedy’ than them and immediately the lines will flow, “We cannot carry...

Posted on Mar 22, 2019

Financial freedom is the gateway to many other freedoms

All Indians are philosophers! It is there in our blood. Any situation, any place, any time, we can easily summon some aspect of philosophy. When it comes to money, when...

Posted on Mar 22, 2019

Harmony in relationships - Dependent, Independent or Interdependent?

As children, we are dependent on the adults around us for almost everything. Slowly as the child grows up, the sense of wanting to be independent takes root. The grown-up...

Posted on Mar 22, 2019

Understanding Human Behaviour - Adopting a compound interest mindset.

As a former banker, I have always been aware of the power of compound interest. As applied to finance, it means that you earn a small sum of interest on...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Harmony in Relationships - Being friends or friendly with our children?

Parents’ speak:
“My daughter and I are best friends. She shares everything with me”
“I want to be the best friend to my son”
“My son/daughter comes and tells me...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Restorative Justice for survivors of abuse

Many people who have been abused (physically, emotionally, spiritually) do not always want Retributive justice but may seek Restorative justice. 
Retributive justice is wanting the offender to be punished for...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Self-care is not selfishness

“You can find time to go to the Beauty Parlor and take care of yourself but can’t find time to visit my mother”
“You have not missed going to the...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Harmony in relationships - Why are you like you, be like me.

A conversation between father and son:
“You are eating sweets in the end. You should eat it before you eat the curd rice”
“No, I don’t like it before the...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Harmony in relationships - Protecting people we love all the time or teaching them to protect themselves?

“I don’t want to take cash, can you transfer the money online to my account?” I asked a friend recently.
“I will ask my dad to do it,” she replied....

Posted on Dec 23, 2018