Learning to stay with an emotion

If you don’t like particular weather (cold, hot, rainy, humid etc.,) you have two choices: move to a place where the weather is different or just wait it out. Most...

Posted on Aug 3, 2019

The on going tug-of-war between two sisters

Should she rather stay in than bail out of the situation?

When one of them met me, I asked her if she could give a break to the relationship for...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Are we suckers for punishment?

That set me thinking. Why do we go again and again to read the negative message? Why not delete it after reading it maybe two/three times? I can understand going...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

WHY IS MY CHILD doing such WILD THINGS? Have I failed as a parent?

Peer groups and masks of children

When you look a little deeper, you realize that apart from parents, there are others who have a rather profound effect on children -...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Smiley - always?

The ubiquitous smiley on a yellow background has given everyone a symbol of happiness. If you are happy, you have to be smiling - the corollary being, if you are...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Being Nonjudgmental – The 40-60-80 Principle

We were headed on the Bengaluru – Hassan highway in my cousin's car. The weather was glorious, the road smooth and the conversation light-hearted. My cousin who is about to...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

We are always waiting, aren't we?


We are waiting to complete our education, waiting to get financial independence, waiting to get married, waiting to have children and then waiting some...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Paralysis from analysis

We live in two worlds, don't we? One is the real world out there where we can physically touch things, people, smell the different aromas,...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Managing expectations - The seventh Auto principle

Resilience is defined as the ability to bounce back from adversity. It is the trait of not giving up. It is the old “Try, try, try again until you succeed”...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Patience – An underrated quality in counselling

When we discuss the qualities of a good counsellor, the qualities like a good listener, being non-judgmental, empathetic etc come out clearly. These are of course the fundamental qualities needed...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Year end blues


One more calendar year is about to end. The winter has set in, chill outside, you don't want to get out of bed in the morning, less Sun...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Bonding over Brinjal curry

Sometime back a friend of mine had invited me over for lunch. We met talked, caught up with the past and of course, had a great home-cooked lunch. His wife,...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Happy ending or sad ending?

Authors and Movie Directors are in a great position of power over their readers and movie viewers. While we turn the pages with burning excitement or stay glued to the...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018

Happiness is not just INSIDE, Happiness is people OUTSIDE. 

When consistently reading quotes and FB posters like, “Happiness is what occurs in your mind”, “Depend only on yourself for Happiness”, “Pay no attention to what...

Posted on Sep 24, 2018