The many ways we Indians say, “I love you” without actually saying it

Most psychology books are written by Western authors and these authors only look at the Western culture and assume the rest of the world is the same too. When we...

Posted on Sep 14, 2019

Do affirmations work?

Affirmations are thoughts you consciously repeat to your self desiring a specific outcome. These are curious. Do they work? Sometimes they seem to and at other times they produce no...

Posted on Sep 13, 2019

Giving instructions to children and others - The Waiter Principle

As part of daily living, all of us are in a position to give instructions to others and we would like those instructions to be followed without any variation. Children...

Posted on Sep 10, 2019

Do you eat from a plate or a bowl?

I grew up eating from a plate where only the ‘proper’ things could be mixed. You did not mix up everything. You ate each thing separately with its accompaniments. Later...

Posted on May 14, 2019

How do you respond to delayed responses on SMS and WhatsApp?

A good chunk of communication happens on text messages these days whether professional or personal. Most of the times, we all respond quickly to work-related messages as those are related...

Posted on May 12, 2019

Should parents discuss the negative aspects of their children with others?

Recently, while sitting in a cafe sipping coffee, could not help overhear four mothers discussing their children. Three of the mothers were sharing deeply about what is not good about...

Posted on May 7, 2019

Harmony in relationships - Relationships and scorecards

“I have given you four gifts on all your last four birthdays, but I got on only two of my birthdays”
“I am the one always calling you. You never...

Posted on May 4, 2019

Parents are not responsible if children have different beliefs about religion/god

Parents who are religiously inclined become cautious as their children grow into their teens. Until the children are young, it is easy to enforce a certain kind of education. Religious...

Posted on May 1, 2019

Being an animal lover and a non-vegetarian is not a multiple personality disorder


A few of us had gone out for dinner at a multi-cuisine restaurant. As the food was being ordered, two of us, including me, were vegetarians and the other six...

Posted on Apr 3, 2019

Stopping the conversations in the head - Give a running commentary on life around you


Most times we are talking to someone in our mind. Either to someone or to ourselves. As long as the conversations are pleasant, they are welcome. But there are times...

Posted on Apr 3, 2019

Choice architecture at work - Physical Barriers, the first and the best tool for changing behaviour 

In the building where our offices are located, two wheeler parking is allowed on the side of the building. The two-wheelers were allowed to park in two rows one behind...

Posted on Mar 22, 2019

Understanding Human Behaviour - Adopting a compound interest mindset.

As a former banker, I have always been aware of the power of compound interest. As applied to finance, it means that you earn a small sum of interest on...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Harmony in Relationships - Being friends or friendly with our children?

Parents’ speak:
“My daughter and I are best friends. She shares everything with me”
“I want to be the best friend to my son”
“My son/daughter comes and tells me...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Restorative Justice for survivors of abuse

Many people who have been abused (physically, emotionally, spiritually) do not always want Retributive justice but may seek Restorative justice. 
Retributive justice is wanting the offender to be punished for...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Not complaining about work, being grateful for it.

We all differ on the amount of money we have, but the one resource all of us have in equal measure is time. Eventually, while money gets us comforts, luxuries...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Self-care is not selfishness

“You can find time to go to the Beauty Parlor and take care of yourself but can’t find time to visit my mother”
“You have not missed going to the...

Posted on Mar 18, 2019

Harmony in Relationships - Refraining from being solution oriented ALL the time.

First scenario: The child comes back home from school and says, “You know what happened today? My friend Rahul stopped talking to me.” The Parent instantly responds, “Good for you....

Posted on Dec 13, 2018

Harmony in Relationships - Giving up the need to be right

A wise man once said, “Avoid arguments if possible, especially if impossible”. Arguments are no doubt a part of every relationship and sometimes it could be the spice in the...

Posted on Dec 7, 2018

“I don’t know” is not a set of dirty words

I was traveling on the train to Bangalore and a young girl on her way to her first job was sitting opposite to me. A middle-aged man sitting next to...

Posted on Dec 5, 2018

Saikumar and the world of Tattoos

Pain and Permanence
There is a certain amount of pain to be endured to get a tattoo. The tattoo takes a few days to completely heal and it is more...

Posted on Oct 12, 2018